-Erika Ray

I have one.  Lots of people do.  Do you love Oprah?  She’s got one.  “Like” it and get updates and words of wisdom from the Queen.  Do you like the show Supernatural?  I know you do.  “Like” it and get ready for the new season.  Facebook fanpages have quickly replaced my Google reader.  I wait for an update and I check the blog. It’s like a little community and a gateway to the blog’s author.  I use mine as a way to pimp my blog when I’m actually writing on it.  I upload more pictures to it since I rarely visit Flickr.  I type things I’d rather not on my personal Facebook page.  Me face down with some bourbon?  Yeah, that’s not going up on my personal page so Aunt four times removed can see it.  But it goes up on my Fanpage.

But I’ll be honest, sometimes I hate Facebook Fan Pages.  For a long time it felt weird.  Here I am asking people to “Like” me.  That’s a weird position to be in.  It’s like I’m standing in front of all my friends and family screaming this:

Hey everyone!!  I fancy myself as an artist, photographer, and writer.  Like me.  Do it!  Don’t you like me?  

I would never do that in real life.  Never.  But Facebook makes it so easy.  And here’s where it gets really weird.  When friends or family don’t like it.  In the beginning, this was hard to stomach.  And now FB makes it worse.  They actually point out your friends who haven’t liked your page.  It’s like Mark Zuckerberg is saying, “Hey Erika Ray Photography, isn’t it funny that your sister-in-law doesn’t like you?  You should make her by asking again?”  And then you start thinking:

Don’t they like me?  Maybe I think I’m way funnier than I actually am (so true).  Oh they’re still pissed from the time I said that uncomfortable drunk comment in 2004.  Shit, I thought I took good pictures.  How could they sit there at Thanksgiving dinner and not Like my page?  Are they not liking it because it will make their other family members uncomfortable?  Ok fine.  I sometimes say “Cunt.”  Maybe they don’t want that in their feed…  

I’m slightly exaggerating.  In the past, I would think one of these statements and move on.  But I’d be lying if I said that I haven’t been hurt or offended if someone didn’t Like my page.  Deep down, I realize there are reasons why people don’t like a page.  It’s hard on your iPhone.  You get the email and your forgot.  You never use FB.  You really don’t like me.  But I’m over all that now.  I think.  My brother still hasn’t Liked it.  I’m not holding a grudge…

Here’s the other thing about Facebook Fanpages that drives me insane.  And this is a personal irritation.  If you do this, ok.  If I think you’re talented, I’ll get over it.  Please remember, I have weird hang-ups: toothpaste, wet hair in the tub, gum.  All that being said, I hate when people “Share the Love” only to get Likes.  Don’t know about this?  Let me fill you in.  I run around FB liking a bunch of Photogs pages on a particular day.  There’s Share the Love Tuesdays, Networking Monday, We Get Cra Cra Wednesday (I made that up, but it should be a day).  So I visit the page, Like it, say some nice words, drop my FB page.  Repeat a dozen times.  And all the while, other photogs are doing the same thing.  Driving up Page Likes.  This practice drives me mental.  What’s the point?  I’ve seen some pages that are from towns of 500 hundred people and the photog has 2000 Likes.  And the pictures are shit.  Why?  Look in the sidebar and read where the Likes are coming from.

Spreading the Love Sunday!  Go and like XYZ Photography!

Love your work.  You might like mine too.  Check it out.

Like your photos.  Like mine too.

All on the same day.  Within minutes of each one.  These aren’t people who will ever use her services because they aren’t from the same part of the country!  It’s just driving up the Likes.  I get being inspired.  That’s the reason I Like a page.  But this isn’t for inspiration, it’s for a big number that makes a person feel good.

Other things I hate about a FB fanpage:

  • I hate when people hold contests to get to a particular number of Likes.
  • I hate when people have a blog update on the FB fanpage and then repost from their personal FB page.  Yes, I’ve done this but try to only do it with birth session or extremely personal blog post.  And I hate that I’m doing it.
  • I hate that your FB fanpage shows you how many people viewed a post.  It’s only to get you to spend money to promote it.
  • I hate when people say, “Getting to emails really soon!”  Stop updating your FB page and send me the fucking email!!
  • I hate when people upload the same photos to FB and then use the exact same photos on the blog post they just added.  Why would I click over?  Show me one great photo and make me click over to the blog for the same greatness just more of it.

Sorry if you do any of these.  I’m sure you’ve only done one or two of them and probably not very often.  Maybe.

A big number of Likes doesn’t really reward you with business or mean that you’re a very Likeable person.  It’s just a big number.  And before you say, “Erika, you’re just jealous.  You want 2000 Likes too.”  Yes, 2000 people who like me is flattering.  But I want them to Like it because they actually enjoy me.  Not because I went on a spree of Liking.  I want a community of people on my Fanpage.  I won’t ever ask you to Like me to win something or just because I Liked your page.  Like me because you think I take a decent picture every now and then.  Like me because you enjoy that fact that I say Cunt and won’t apologize for it.  Like me only because you want to.

Am I insane with my Facebook fanpage gripes?  What irritates you about a Facebook fanpage?

And don’t leave a comment if you haven’t Liked my page…

psst…  You know what else irritates me?  Blog post with no photos.  And I’ve done it twice.  Sorry.  Take whatever I hate with a grain of salt.

But I really do hate this shit above and I’m not apologizing for it.



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  1. September 18, 2012

    Though a FB fan page is supposed to be one of the suggested ways to improve readership for your blog, I opt out of all that. Life is cluttered enough without adding to it. As for the blog readership, I’m grateful for anyone who happens to stumble across and enjoy it.

    • September 18, 2012

      It’s one of the main ways I read or find out about new blog posts. I just hate that there’s a method to “some” people’s madness. And I feel the exact way about anyone reading my blog and O+U!

  2. September 18, 2012

    LOL. You had me at “I hate Facebook Fanpages”. When I first started my author page and sent the invitation to my fam, friends, and peeps–let’s just say it wasn’t the overwhelming response I had hoped for.

    But, hey! Now I like your FB page. : )

    • September 18, 2012

      Isn’t is crazy? For a while I felt like I was a teenager. “How can you not like me?” was sounding whiny.

  3. September 18, 2012

    I double post all the time, but that’s just because so many of my asshole “friends” aren’t fans, so I prefer to shove my work down their throat if they won’t be a fan.
    Didn’t realize about the “share the love” thing… heading now to figure out how to drive up my likes….

    • September 18, 2012

      See? Asshole friends. I figure that if they don’t want to see my work, Fuck ’em. I’m thinking Let’s Get Cra Cra Wednesday is the new thing. I’ll go Cra Cra all over FB just for you.

  4. September 18, 2012

    I don’t understand Facebook Fan Pages or Twitter. I fail at social media.

    • September 18, 2012

      I’d say you’re doing just fine! Everyone else is failing.

  5. September 18, 2012

    you are so right-on with this post.
    so, i had my cat “like” your facebook page. [he controls my facebook. so if you get a “like” from a cat, you’ll know….]

    • September 18, 2012

      Cat Likes are likes in my book.

  6. September 18, 2012

    Seriously Ericka, I need to hire you as my personal mouth piece. You articulate so well what I am afraid to say. I have not made a FB fan page for many of the reasons that you listed. I’m afraid to be sucked into yet again, another place where I am defined by how many “likes” and “comments” I get. Why does every inch of this universe have to be a popularity game? So…if I ever do create a fan page I won’t lay awake at night and wonder why you haven’t “liked” it. And just so you know, I only “like” the fan pages of those I truly admire and want to hear from. You are on the top of the list. For reals.

  7. September 18, 2012

    I like you because you say cunt and don’t apologize for it.

  8. September 18, 2012

    UGH! I AM WITH YOU!!! I was just talking to my husband yesterday about it. I was spending WAY too much time on my facebook page yesterday. I am a person that gets obsessed by numbers. If I go for a run, I have to run an even 3 miles or an even 30 minutes. If I make a gallery for a client, it usually has to be a round number. If I see that my fb page has 299 likes, I am going to ask my “friends” to like it or do a dreaded “like ladder” (which I have done only twice and find it very wrong. I want people to like my photography and not just like my page because I like crappy pages). The WORST part indeed is finding that only 90 of your 289 facebook friends actually like your page. I JUST noticed that and recently called them all out (nicely) on my personal page! I got 9 more likes and I was shocked that one of them was my sister in law. Then it put me at 99 and I almost went crazy! So, I waited a couple of days and asked them again and LUCKILY got one like. PHEW! I thought I was going to have to get checked into a mental hospital. But, I really TRULY think that some people are oblivious. I think that when they see your FB page posts that you share on your personal page (which I SO do) they don’t understand that it came from your page. It’s super annoying, but I am coming to terms with it. If only 100 of 288 friends like my page, then fine. I really do want them to like it for the work and not because I asked them to. Yes, I would totally like a page just to support a facebook “friend” even if it wasn’t something I am interested in (except for that time they asked me to like their tanning salon. I just couldn’t) because I believe in supporting others in my community. But, most people aren’t like that, I guess. And don’t get me started on tagging. I have always wanted people to tag themselves in the pictures I post so that I gain exposure within the community. THEY NEVER DO FOR SOME REASON! So, I have been tagging them and it feels so wrong! 😦 So, here I am griping with you when I should be editing a family session. But, it’s been BUGGING ME SO MUCH lately and I appreciate your post and I hope you don’t mind my venting alongside you. I needed it. HAHA! =)

  9. September 18, 2012

    your posts make me laugh 🙂 I’m glad I ‘like’ you…& I’ve fallen victim to the madness in the past, I’m happy I’ve moved forward 😉 but it’s sort of like a bunch of old people reliving their high school years through facebook, do you think they like me? do they? does he? hmmmm, he doesn’t like me….no, I think he does?!?! & sometimes, it seriously hurts to have a photo you adore with such few likes & see a photo that lacks all sorts of stuff (talent, technique, anything?) with so many likes in your newsfeed, yep, I can’t lie- it hurts, but I know it’s silly to even let it bother me…ahhhh, the power of facebook 😉

  10. Bridget #
    September 18, 2012

    So I’m guessing if I get you in my news feed then I have liked your page right? You know way more about FB than I do. I didn’t know there was so much more to occupy my time on there. But then again, I get annoyed with some of my regular everyday posts so I don’t think I’ll add more to the plate.

  11. September 18, 2012

    shiiiiit i have totally suggested people like me. fuck. but at some point, i came to all these same realizations. and i totally agree with everything. and i maybe should find a way to work cunt into my vocab more regularly. bitch, i like you.

  12. September 18, 2012

    oh wow. i am SO guilty of all these thoughts. it’s like, as a photographer and an artist we don’t scrutinize ourself enough but WHY THE FUCK DIDN’T THAT AMAZING PHOTO get like 3049598 likes? right?! undue stress. who gives a shit who likes us, right? and i definitely need to work cunt into my writing more often.

  13. Linda Silva Palleschi (sidemtess | linda) #
    September 18, 2012

    i don’t have a fanpage and i imagine i never will but i know all about the numbers game and i think i have a great deal of the insecure teenager in me that it would drive me batshit. more batshit to be correct. but you know i love you — always have! you are one fantastic writer and i enjoy your writings so much — and, of course, your photography is just as truthful as your words!!! and a good potty mouth is always refreshing to me.

    is it ok if i add one more thing regarding your post about “furkids”? it is just this: everything i said was true BUT sometimes i really prefer animals to people. this is one of those days.

  14. September 18, 2012

    LOL…I’ve done several of the things you’ve mentioned but I trust you’ll still love me. I HAVE to repost on my personal page…not all of my friends have “LIKED” my business page. It MUST be done. Also, that “share the love” crap – I’d never heard of that shit going on, thankfully. Sounds uber tacky. I personally don’t worry about my Likes. 95% of people who like my page are other photographers and they’re not the ones who hire me. Another great post, birch!

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